jungalee43
06-29 09:05 PM
I have used AC21 replied to all the RFEs about it. Laast year my attorney delayed renewal of my EAD and immediately 485 petition started moving and landed in National benefits Center for scheduling an interview.
In 60 days after receiving the case the NBC has scheduled this initial interview, only for me.
Additionally what is worrying me is that they are vague on what documents they want.
They say if this is marriage based GC your spouse should attend. Or of parent-child based GC the petitioning parents or child should attend.
They have specifially mentioned medicals if not already submitted, birth certificate, returns, employers letter, EADs, travel documents, I-94 and then they say all supporting documents submitted with the application. What do they mean? Is this because they don't know what they are looking for? on top of this the words "initial interview" have confused me.
I guess the cases that are pre-adjucated are called for interview.
In 60 days after receiving the case the NBC has scheduled this initial interview, only for me.
Additionally what is worrying me is that they are vague on what documents they want.
They say if this is marriage based GC your spouse should attend. Or of parent-child based GC the petitioning parents or child should attend.
They have specifially mentioned medicals if not already submitted, birth certificate, returns, employers letter, EADs, travel documents, I-94 and then they say all supporting documents submitted with the application. What do they mean? Is this because they don't know what they are looking for? on top of this the words "initial interview" have confused me.
I guess the cases that are pre-adjucated are called for interview.
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srh1
10-28 02:31 PM
Folks,
Iam starting this new thread so that people will know what are the pros and cons leaving a company once GC is approved.
1.What are all the things to be noted while leaving the company after getting GC.
2.To be specific how long a consultant should be with company after GC is approved.
3.Also once GC is approved and if the consultant is off the payroll for say 2 to 3 months will there be any problem while filing for citizen ship.
Iam starting this new thread so that people will know what are the pros and cons leaving a company once GC is approved.
1.What are all the things to be noted while leaving the company after getting GC.
2.To be specific how long a consultant should be with company after GC is approved.
3.Also once GC is approved and if the consultant is off the payroll for say 2 to 3 months will there be any problem while filing for citizen ship.
sreenivas11
11-16 10:39 AM
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myvinbox@gmail.com
08-17 12:17 PM
go exact same reply..please let me know if you hear anything about your case
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greeta
04-21 01:20 PM
Hi,
I am working in US on L1 and my company would start my green card filling in next few months.
I also have valid H1B pettion stamped and can switch to H1B which would mean that I can work freely here at US.
But many of my friends told me that green card processing is faster on L1.
I am not able to make decision whether I should continue working on L1 or change my status to H1 to get better hike and more opportunity.
Pls can anyone tell me which would be wise choice. Is green card processing for L1 visa is faster?
Thanks in advance.
~Greeta
I am working in US on L1 and my company would start my green card filling in next few months.
I also have valid H1B pettion stamped and can switch to H1B which would mean that I can work freely here at US.
But many of my friends told me that green card processing is faster on L1.
I am not able to make decision whether I should continue working on L1 or change my status to H1 to get better hike and more opportunity.
Pls can anyone tell me which would be wise choice. Is green card processing for L1 visa is faster?
Thanks in advance.
~Greeta
gc28262
04-08 06:27 AM
Looking at this issue, isnt' it USCIS who is at fault here ?
How can they allow the employer to "reuse" the original labor when employee1 has already used it for his I-140 approval ?
This is definitely a USCIS mess. Employees/beneficiaries shouldn't be paying the price for USCIS's fault.
How can they allow the employer to "reuse" the original labor when employee1 has already used it for his I-140 approval ?
This is definitely a USCIS mess. Employees/beneficiaries shouldn't be paying the price for USCIS's fault.
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BharatPremi
10-24 01:33 PM
You are 100% correct. They look for PD while accepting I-485 and then they see it only at the time of approval. There is no FIFO. It all depends on luck.
What FIFO Pappu was talking about is related with 485 processing between Receipt and final conslusion. That processing is done on "Receipt date" based FIFO in theory. For practical matter, most of the time, end visual effect is 485 is not done through receipt based FIFO but it is done through that.
Example: Assuming both same catgory and same PD, your 485 file reached on July 2nd. My file is reached on August 2nd. Your file will be processed first.. But say you stuck in name check and I am not then down the road after 1 year, if our PDs become current, And If by that time processing is over on my file then I will get GC first although your file reached first but because you will be still stuck in name check.
What FIFO Pappu was talking about is related with 485 processing between Receipt and final conslusion. That processing is done on "Receipt date" based FIFO in theory. For practical matter, most of the time, end visual effect is 485 is not done through receipt based FIFO but it is done through that.
Example: Assuming both same catgory and same PD, your 485 file reached on July 2nd. My file is reached on August 2nd. Your file will be processed first.. But say you stuck in name check and I am not then down the road after 1 year, if our PDs become current, And If by that time processing is over on my file then I will get GC first although your file reached first but because you will be still stuck in name check.
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alterego
10-19 08:15 PM
Buy only if you have a time horizon of over 5 yrs now. Preferably 10 yrs.
If you are in the enviable position of having a lot of cash or a big income ie cash flow. Then buy in steps every few months over the next 12-18 months, depending on when you see the recovery coming. Generally stocks predate the economy by 6 months and vice versa.
Here is my guess. This recession will be deeper and longer than other recent ones. I'm thinking recovery by 2010 at best here. So, I'm guessing the stocks markets will languish here or hereabouts for atleast a few months. If the credit markets improve, you might see a relief rally of 20% or so, but when the economic reality of deleveraging sets in, a pull back is likely. So much of 2009 will likely be ripe with long term investment opportunities.
The recovery will be more anemic than previous credit driven expansions as credit will almost certainly be more difficult to obtain going forward. So forget the days of 20 plus percent stocks gains, if you're making 10% you are making a killing going forward. If doubling or slightly better for your money in 10 yrs sounds like a good deal to you, that is the kind of deal you can probably expect and should go ahead and invest. If you feel you can do better elsewhere, buy that. We will see virtually no home price appreciation for the next 5 yrs, and perhaps a little longer. The concept of real estate as an investment is now out of vogue and will be so for some time, that along with tougher credit, and an inventory overhang will flatten any price appreciation anytime soon.
Taxes will almost certainly go up in some way or the other and future earnings power will probably erode in the coming decade. From the immigrant community perspective the best we can hope for is that the US decides to use the tax code to encourage savings by switching to a consumption tax and encourage savings and investments. It remains to be seen what approach they will take to taxes. In my view to purely tax the rich will not be as successful (though it will almost certainly be part of the mix of measures) as a more comprehensive and thoughtful overhaul.
Good luck!
If you are in the enviable position of having a lot of cash or a big income ie cash flow. Then buy in steps every few months over the next 12-18 months, depending on when you see the recovery coming. Generally stocks predate the economy by 6 months and vice versa.
Here is my guess. This recession will be deeper and longer than other recent ones. I'm thinking recovery by 2010 at best here. So, I'm guessing the stocks markets will languish here or hereabouts for atleast a few months. If the credit markets improve, you might see a relief rally of 20% or so, but when the economic reality of deleveraging sets in, a pull back is likely. So much of 2009 will likely be ripe with long term investment opportunities.
The recovery will be more anemic than previous credit driven expansions as credit will almost certainly be more difficult to obtain going forward. So forget the days of 20 plus percent stocks gains, if you're making 10% you are making a killing going forward. If doubling or slightly better for your money in 10 yrs sounds like a good deal to you, that is the kind of deal you can probably expect and should go ahead and invest. If you feel you can do better elsewhere, buy that. We will see virtually no home price appreciation for the next 5 yrs, and perhaps a little longer. The concept of real estate as an investment is now out of vogue and will be so for some time, that along with tougher credit, and an inventory overhang will flatten any price appreciation anytime soon.
Taxes will almost certainly go up in some way or the other and future earnings power will probably erode in the coming decade. From the immigrant community perspective the best we can hope for is that the US decides to use the tax code to encourage savings by switching to a consumption tax and encourage savings and investments. It remains to be seen what approach they will take to taxes. In my view to purely tax the rich will not be as successful (though it will almost certainly be part of the mix of measures) as a more comprehensive and thoughtful overhaul.
Good luck!
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desi3933
02-25 09:07 PM
......
what are the options for me?
can I apply for a H1b transfer?
please help
When was your H1-B amendment denied?
What is your current LCA salary vs. original LCA Salary?
what are the options for me?
can I apply for a H1b transfer?
please help
When was your H1-B amendment denied?
What is your current LCA salary vs. original LCA Salary?
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nirenjoshi
07-13 11:51 AM
Was yours paper filed or e-filed?
Mine was e-filed same date - June 19th.
My EAD and AP application was received June 19, 2009 at TSC. To my pleasant shocking & surprise USCIS approved mine and wife's application in 20 days and we received the card today.
We are happy with the speed and efficiency USCIS and wish they could do everything the same way. we received two year EAD but concerned as receiving a two year EAD indicates that it may take a while to get my PD (Dec 2005).
Thanks
Senthil.
Mine was e-filed same date - June 19th.
My EAD and AP application was received June 19, 2009 at TSC. To my pleasant shocking & surprise USCIS approved mine and wife's application in 20 days and we received the card today.
We are happy with the speed and efficiency USCIS and wish they could do everything the same way. we received two year EAD but concerned as receiving a two year EAD indicates that it may take a while to get my PD (Dec 2005).
Thanks
Senthil.
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eb3_nepa
08-14 03:33 PM
Called 6 different operators at the USCIS and got different answers (atleast they are consistently inconsistent!)
2 Said it is perfectly fine as long as the amount is correct
3 said they prefer seperate checks but if the amount is correct they will accept it
1 said they will reject the whole package.
On a lighter note i spoke to one really sweet lady when my call was escalated. All i wanted to ask was about the checks, but she (very enthusiastically) looked up my information and informed me that i was not in the system yet and actually apologised to me. Now i KNOW she looked it up coz she got my middle and company names right even without my telling her that. She even said she has received a few calls today and the guy b4 me was a lucky caller as he was in the system as of Aug 8.
2 Said it is perfectly fine as long as the amount is correct
3 said they prefer seperate checks but if the amount is correct they will accept it
1 said they will reject the whole package.
On a lighter note i spoke to one really sweet lady when my call was escalated. All i wanted to ask was about the checks, but she (very enthusiastically) looked up my information and informed me that i was not in the system yet and actually apologised to me. Now i KNOW she looked it up coz she got my middle and company names right even without my telling her that. She even said she has received a few calls today and the guy b4 me was a lucky caller as he was in the system as of Aug 8.
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mbartosik
02-17 01:24 AM
Hey, it is welcome, but it is also proof that the people running this system cannot count.
Logically if EB2 India is U currently it means that no visas are left, I know how to count to zero, following the rules they must have found new visas under the carpet or miscounted issued visa, or expecting a lot of spill over from EB1, unless they have changed interpretation of rules for EB2, like EB2 can now take from EB3.
Logically if EB2 India is U currently it means that no visas are left, I know how to count to zero, following the rules they must have found new visas under the carpet or miscounted issued visa, or expecting a lot of spill over from EB1, unless they have changed interpretation of rules for EB2, like EB2 can now take from EB3.
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desi3933
02-26 06:04 PM
Original LCA salary is like 58k and current one is 40k
Odd are that you are out of status and this may prevent you seeking another change of status.
Please consult your attorney.
_________________
Not a legal advice.
Odd are that you are out of status and this may prevent you seeking another change of status.
Please consult your attorney.
_________________
Not a legal advice.
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gcwait2007
04-25 11:31 AM
hello folks,
I am switching jobs after an approved I140 and over 180 days from 485 receipt.
I am expecting no problems when leaving my current company. but just incase they decide to revoke my 140,
- is it ok to file AC21 after i receive the NOID if some thing happens or is it better to file AC21 now?
one other complication is i will be changing address too. how long does it take for USCIS to update my new address in their records? the reason i am asking is if they send me RFE or NOID, i will totally miss the boat if they send it to the wrong address. i am sure they will send a copy to my attorney, but he works form my current employer and I will assume he is less likely to help. Does it help if i file G28 with my own name and my new address?
I need to join my new job in 10 days and i hev give my crrent company a notice so it is a bit urgent. Please help.
Thank you
Rex
I have not yet used AC21 to port my job and I am still with my GC sponsoring employer. However I can share my knowledge gained thru various threads in IV and other forums.
If the current GC sponsoring employer decide to revoke the approved I-140, then he/ his lawyer should notify you their intention as well. When they send the letter to USCIS, a copy of the same will be sent to you. There are chances that you may not receive this letter.
If I were you, I would do the following:
Step 1: I would notify the change in address to USCIS. (AR-11 form electronically) and watch out for LUDs.
Step 2: After settling down in new job atleast for few days (one month minimum), I would notify the USCIS about my using AC21 portability for changing the job. There are appropriate formats for notifying USCIS, which you can find in this forum. In case, NOID is issued in future, then the early advice of AC21 would come in handy. I have heard the successful stories where the individuals had sent AC21 intimation earlier.
All the best in your new job! Good Luck
I am switching jobs after an approved I140 and over 180 days from 485 receipt.
I am expecting no problems when leaving my current company. but just incase they decide to revoke my 140,
- is it ok to file AC21 after i receive the NOID if some thing happens or is it better to file AC21 now?
one other complication is i will be changing address too. how long does it take for USCIS to update my new address in their records? the reason i am asking is if they send me RFE or NOID, i will totally miss the boat if they send it to the wrong address. i am sure they will send a copy to my attorney, but he works form my current employer and I will assume he is less likely to help. Does it help if i file G28 with my own name and my new address?
I need to join my new job in 10 days and i hev give my crrent company a notice so it is a bit urgent. Please help.
Thank you
Rex
I have not yet used AC21 to port my job and I am still with my GC sponsoring employer. However I can share my knowledge gained thru various threads in IV and other forums.
If the current GC sponsoring employer decide to revoke the approved I-140, then he/ his lawyer should notify you their intention as well. When they send the letter to USCIS, a copy of the same will be sent to you. There are chances that you may not receive this letter.
If I were you, I would do the following:
Step 1: I would notify the change in address to USCIS. (AR-11 form electronically) and watch out for LUDs.
Step 2: After settling down in new job atleast for few days (one month minimum), I would notify the USCIS about my using AC21 portability for changing the job. There are appropriate formats for notifying USCIS, which you can find in this forum. In case, NOID is issued in future, then the early advice of AC21 would come in handy. I have heard the successful stories where the individuals had sent AC21 intimation earlier.
All the best in your new job! Good Luck
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Berkeleybee
09-01 08:39 PM
Michael Cutler is a Fellow of the Center for Immigration Studies, a notoriously anti-immigrant organization.
It is part of the John Tanton network of anti-immigrant organizations (includes NumbersUSA, FAIR etc.). See here (http://www.splcenter.org/intel/intelreport/article.jsp?sid=72)
He is not currently at CIS, he is an ex-employee of the INS, and given his sentiments I am glad he is an ex-employee.
Google the guy, you'll see his rage all over the web.
These hearings were organized by our best friend Sensenbrenner. Other policymakers by now ought to recognize FAIR, NumbersUSA and its ilk what what they are.
best,
Berkeleybee
It is part of the John Tanton network of anti-immigrant organizations (includes NumbersUSA, FAIR etc.). See here (http://www.splcenter.org/intel/intelreport/article.jsp?sid=72)
He is not currently at CIS, he is an ex-employee of the INS, and given his sentiments I am glad he is an ex-employee.
Google the guy, you'll see his rage all over the web.
These hearings were organized by our best friend Sensenbrenner. Other policymakers by now ought to recognize FAIR, NumbersUSA and its ilk what what they are.
best,
Berkeleybee
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ilikekilo
04-19 05:21 PM
Hi Folks,
My fiancee is a MS student and currently has student loan in India being charged at 13.5%. I am wondering if there is any loan that i can get here with a lower interest rate to repay off the one in india.
I would appreciate any pointers or suggestions here.
try this
not sure what your situation is with credit cards, I mean, what is the amount of credit limit you ahve.
watch out for the offes inthe mail for LIFE TIME balance transfers. generally you could call them and negotiate the APR they offer, based on my experience.
BUt keep in mind, b4 U jump in to all this banks here CAN rescind the offer anytime for any reason (when you are late even one month, etc) although there was a law that has passed recently by Obamas administration that they gave more protection to consumers.
lastly crunch some numbers, i know 13 % is high but at the same time its in Rupees Vs Dollars, so do some number crunching of intersest payment in dollards Vs rupees...good luck
My fiancee is a MS student and currently has student loan in India being charged at 13.5%. I am wondering if there is any loan that i can get here with a lower interest rate to repay off the one in india.
I would appreciate any pointers or suggestions here.
try this
not sure what your situation is with credit cards, I mean, what is the amount of credit limit you ahve.
watch out for the offes inthe mail for LIFE TIME balance transfers. generally you could call them and negotiate the APR they offer, based on my experience.
BUt keep in mind, b4 U jump in to all this banks here CAN rescind the offer anytime for any reason (when you are late even one month, etc) although there was a law that has passed recently by Obamas administration that they gave more protection to consumers.
lastly crunch some numbers, i know 13 % is high but at the same time its in Rupees Vs Dollars, so do some number crunching of intersest payment in dollards Vs rupees...good luck
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08-06 10:58 PM
I read this in other forum and thought of sharing it
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When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!
That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.
Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a months time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.
Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset..
I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.
Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more.. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote:
'I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart'
The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you, but if you do, you just might save a marriage.
Relationships are made not to exploit, not to be broken.
We teach some by what we say
We teach some more by what we do
But we teach most by what we are
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You don't get to choose how you are going to die, or when, but, you can decide how you are going to live, here and now.hi,
I came to US 5 years back in H4. My husband processed GC and 140 is cleared and 485 pending. I got my EAD and now working. My husband and I have problems and he is threatening to ruin my life.
Can I know a few things
1. Can he take me out of the GC ?
2. Can he revoke my EAD ?
3. Can my employee extend my EAD which is expiring in 2010 and continue my GC.
please help...
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When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!
That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.
Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a months time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.
Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset..
I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.
Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more.. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote:
'I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart'
The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you, but if you do, you just might save a marriage.
Relationships are made not to exploit, not to be broken.
We teach some by what we say
We teach some more by what we do
But we teach most by what we are
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You don't get to choose how you are going to die, or when, but, you can decide how you are going to live, here and now.hi,
I came to US 5 years back in H4. My husband processed GC and 140 is cleared and 485 pending. I got my EAD and now working. My husband and I have problems and he is threatening to ruin my life.
Can I know a few things
1. Can he take me out of the GC ?
2. Can he revoke my EAD ?
3. Can my employee extend my EAD which is expiring in 2010 and continue my GC.
please help...
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srarao
07-19 02:30 PM
Hi All,
My skin test was positive, where as my x-ray was normal.Incase I get an RFE , Can I go to my PCP or need to go only to local health dept.
Can some body guide me
-Srarao
$100-so far
My skin test was positive, where as my x-ray was normal.Incase I get an RFE , Can I go to my PCP or need to go only to local health dept.
Can some body guide me
-Srarao
$100-so far
waitingnwaiting
01-19 03:06 PM
Oh God!!
How can we stop these EB2I - EB3I fights?
What unites us? Only in our fights for superiority?
I have no intension to fight. I am only asking for list of such Immigrants and made it big. It will be good talking points.
How can we stop these EB2I - EB3I fights?
What unites us? Only in our fights for superiority?
I have no intension to fight. I am only asking for list of such Immigrants and made it big. It will be good talking points.
rc0878
09-23 10:35 AM
I think as far it does not say unknown, we should be good....but still we should atleast discuss this wit our respective attorneys and post our findings in here.
BTW, mine is blank also.
To answer your question the Priority date column is NULL ( i mean blank) for most of us in 485 Receipt Notice.
But the "Section : " is showing UNKNOWN for some of us and showing something else for others...
I'm wondering if that could be an issue - shall we call USCIS to fix this ?
BTW, mine is blank also.
To answer your question the Priority date column is NULL ( i mean blank) for most of us in 485 Receipt Notice.
But the "Section : " is showing UNKNOWN for some of us and showing something else for others...
I'm wondering if that could be an issue - shall we call USCIS to fix this ?
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